Preparing Your Child for College

The moment has arrived. Your child graduated from high school, the open house was a successful celebration with family and friends, and now comes the preparation for sending them off to college.

This can be a bittersweet moment as we watch them grow and mature into young, independent and capable adults. We know we are going to miss them. We wonder how they will adjust to a more rigorous academic schedule, making new friends and fitting in, participating in extracurricular activities, and yes… the Friday night parties.

One of the hardest things we do as parents is transition from providing guidance, telling them what, when, why and how to do things as they grow from infants throughout childhood, to now being in their late teens. We recognize they are craving independence, and we need to give them some breathing room. We struggle knowing when to intervene and when to let them make their own decisions, as this is part of growing up. We need to be a partner with our children as the relationship changes from one of guidance to listening.

As we prepare to send them off to college, can we adopt the position of listening to them when they come to us with a challenge or a problem? Can we listen in a non-judgmental way? Can we recognize when we are needed as a trusted sounding board and gently guide without being the problem-solver?

What's Behind the Door Slam

You may have heard statements such as, “You think you know everything!” or “I hate you,” as they walk away and slam the door. It’s possible they may be feeling some stress and anxiety as they prepare for college. But, if they find themselves in a more relaxed and comfortable state, they might say something like, “I don’t know what to expect, I’m not sure how I will fit in, I hope I can get good grades, and I’m going to miss you and miss being at home.”

Behind that front of being tough and wanting to appear in control is your son or daughter who still loves you very much, and whom you, too, love very much. A big embrace is just around the corner, and if it doesn’t happen, just know it’s in their hearts!

Encouraging Growth and Independence

So, as you prepare to embark on this new and exciting journey, let me pass on some thoughts and tips. Dr. Hansa Bhargava provided some recommendations for helping your teen in HealthyChildren.Org. You can read the article here to learn more:

• Instead of solving their problems, give them an opportunity to solve it by themselves.
• In the process of solving problems, they will make mistakes. Let them know this is ok. We often learn best from mistakes, and when we learn the responsibility of how to fix our mistakes.
• Let them know they have what is needed to take care of business, solve issues and be their own boss.
• Encourage them to make their own appointments, follow up with professors, and figure out their own schedules – for what is going to work best for them.
• Ask them to look up the university or college health clinic for possible illnesses, emergencies or mental health treatments. If they take medicines on a regular basis, it will be good for the Health Clinic to know this in advance. You also have the option of a Telemedicine or virtual visit with us via Bronson MyChart. Here are some general guidelines for doing a virtual visit.

Staying Healthy at College: Common Illnesses to Watch For

Many of the common health issues they might face are similar to those encountered during high school, so they should keep track of how they are feeling:

Common Colds

Common colds typically start with a runny and congested nose, a cough, and perhaps a tired and run-down feeling. Expect the cold to last no more than 10 days or so. I get concerned about sinus infections if the cough and congestion go beyond two weeks.

Viruses

Flu, RSV, parainfluenza, adenovirus and metapneumovirus show up late fall and into the winter. Expect fevers, body aches and possibly an upset stomach with these. Expect improvement within two weeks. Going beyond this time frame may indicate a secondary bacterial infection.

Strep Throat

Strep gives you a very sore throat, often with a fever.  It’s a good idea to get checked when we have a sore throat because this bacterial infection can be treated with an antibiotic. Untreated strep throat can cause problems with the heart and kidneys.

Mono

Mono also presents with a sore throat, but tiredness becomes a major feature. A blood test can reveal the diagnosis. Consider getting evaluated if fever and lethargy persist for more than a few days.

GI Viruses

Viruses that infect the GI track can result in vomiting and diarrhea. Vomiting usually lasts for 24 to 48 hours, whereas diarrhea can last for a few days. Pushing fluids will help prevent dehydration. Sometimes a medicine like Zofran can help with the nausea and vomiting.

Meningitis

Meningitis is particularly caused by the meningococcus bacteria, is rare but can spread easily if it comes into a college campus. Hopefully, your son or daughter has had the vaccine to protect against this type of meningitis. Symptoms of meningitis include an acute fever, headache, stiff neck, nausea or vomiting and the eyes become sensitive to light. This is an emergency that needs immediate care.

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Additional Items to Consider Before Leaving for College

Empower them to make their own list of needs and prepare for college instead of doing it for them. You can also read this article to get a more comprehensive list of all the items needed and use this list as you make suggestions for them:

Dorm Essentials

• • Linens, pillow, comforter, towels
  • Laundry bag or basket
  • Alarm clock and phone charger
  • Closet organizers, hangers, and under-the-bed storage
  • Desk lamp, pens, laptop/tablet, organizers
  • Mirror, bulletin board, dry erase board

Health & Hygiene Supplies

• • First aid kit (consider adding cold medicine like Dimetapp or Vicks)
  • Clorox disinfecting wipes
  • Shower sandals and mesh shower caddy

Room Comfort & Convenience

• • Personal comfort items (blankets, stuffed animals)
  • Memory foam mattress topper
  • Mini-fridge and microwave (if allowed)
  • Rolling cart organizer, storage bins
  • Power strip or tower, fan, vacuum
  • Coffee maker or electric kettle

Handy Extras

• • Flashlight, tape measure, tool kit
  • Trash can
  • Clear sticky hooks for wall hanging

References from HealthyChildren.org:

Are You Over-Helping Your College-Bound Teen?

Common Health Problems at College

Healthy Tips for the College Freshman